tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8537804131900093649.post4548182311569837108..comments2024-01-24T03:11:25.496-05:00Comments on On Bradstreet: Notes From The Laundry On Consensual LivingAmy Bradstreethttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12912770586738069413noreply@blogger.comBlogger18125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8537804131900093649.post-89236704814763990912012-05-27T11:03:48.556-04:002012-05-27T11:03:48.556-04:00I wish I knew how to get to where you are. My chil...I wish I knew how to get to where you are. My children hate all cleaning- even cleaning up their own messes. They are more than happy to live in chaos if it means they don't have to clean.lynniehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15560820178930855449noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8537804131900093649.post-46882807605531590622012-03-17T12:17:16.981-04:002012-03-17T12:17:16.981-04:00Cannot say enough good things about this post. Our...Cannot say enough good things about this post. Our family style - and I never knew it had a name - has been that "we're a team, and we all work together on what needs to be done." <br /><br />I don't pay my daughter to help around the house (nor do we do traditional "allowance" of any kind), and I don't give her a list of "stuff" that she's supposed to do.<br /><br />That said, this 12-year-old girl is incredibly helpful and I think she feels much more like a contributing member of our family because SHE is choosing the areas in which she is able to make a difference. <br /><br />Yes, there are those things that "nobody" likes doing, but we pretty well rotate those, and Sarah, our daughter, sees my husband, my mom (who lives with us) and me willing to take our turns with the necessary things, so she finds herself willing to do so as well. <br /><br />I absolutely respect ANY other opinions on this; I just know what's worked for us; but it was nice to read your post and see our style so clearly summed up, especially as it relates to unschooling, which we're new to. Thanks!Joan Conciliohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09042037521306574698noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8537804131900093649.post-12170133259217426002012-02-27T16:32:46.734-05:002012-02-27T16:32:46.734-05:00Read a lot at the consensual living site you linke...Read a lot at the consensual living site you linked to, and then thought and observed a lot. Do you have suggestions/links about consensual living with younger children? <br /><br />Time for my own version of your story: I've been feeling a bit under the weather lately, so have gotten behind on my routines. I went into the kitchen yesterday morning to get back on track, and went to unload the dishwasher as I do every morning. My girls often help me with this part, and they did so again, but when it came time to reload it, they stopped me dead in my tracks, saying that they had a new system for loading it, and to please not mess with it! They had apparently been loading the dishwasher while I was laid up, and have decided to keep the job. They turn six in April. :)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8537804131900093649.post-86523927893192995742012-02-24T14:49:24.783-05:002012-02-24T14:49:24.783-05:00My kids are still pretty young, but they do occasi...My kids are still pretty young, but they do occasionally offer to help and will often help out if I ask without whining and complaining. I've been thinking that this might disappear the older they get, so it was great to hear about the helpfullness and willinginess to contribute to the household tasks that your older children have done. Thanks for sharing :)Chrishttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09367499497954819955noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8537804131900093649.post-17157425637115537232012-02-24T12:44:35.114-05:002012-02-24T12:44:35.114-05:00Shel, please, please, don't ever worry about r...Shel, please, please, don't ever worry about responding, really. I so understand birthday season and holidays and all that can happen, especially with kids in the house. And yes, we are planning to attend NEUC and of course we will meet up! This will be our third NEUC, so we're excited. I hope you can make it!Amy Bradstreethttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12912770586738069413noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8537804131900093649.post-53126788888493551602012-02-24T11:54:40.886-05:002012-02-24T11:54:40.886-05:00Hi Amy,
I'm sorry to take so long to respond ...Hi Amy, <br />I'm sorry to take so long to respond to your comment. Things have been on super overdrive with Emma's fourth birthday (and all the fun of Valentine's Day the week before that)! We are hoping to be able to be at NEUC this year! It sounds just fabulous and a great way to connect with more people within the community! Will you be there too? If so, I'd love to meet up! :)Shelhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17010097249579515249noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8537804131900093649.post-31336362068950433372012-02-20T14:49:09.122-05:002012-02-20T14:49:09.122-05:00I hope that, one day when I have kids, they will b...I hope that, one day when I have kids, they will be as supportive, thoughtful, and intelligent as yours:)The Insolitus Lupushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00004623854093760677noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8537804131900093649.post-90175491450082593032012-02-20T10:20:31.171-05:002012-02-20T10:20:31.171-05:00I love your blog. Your writing is so thoughtful--g...I love your blog. Your writing is so thoughtful--graceful meditations that make me stop and think about (my) life. Thank you for sharing.AEHhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11593709036699350033noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8537804131900093649.post-7186865380320723642012-02-17T18:47:30.299-05:002012-02-17T18:47:30.299-05:00Aren't you lovely, Shel, thanks so much. Yes, ...Aren't you lovely, Shel, thanks so much. Yes, I confess to only peeking at your blog (your girls and home are adorable!) and I look forward to spending more time there. Since you are in MA, have you attended or considered attending the Northeast Unschooling Conference http://www.northeastunschoolingconference.com/(end of August in Wakefield)? There's lots of support and good things happening there. I love knowing that you are unschooling, too. Thanks again for sharing my post and for reading and commenting!Amy Bradstreethttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12912770586738069413noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8537804131900093649.post-84991482222531454082012-02-17T17:00:26.546-05:002012-02-17T17:00:26.546-05:00Hi Amy, I have been reading your blog for the last...Hi Amy, I have been reading your blog for the last few months and am so greatful to have discovered this sweet space! We are an unschooling family of two little girls living in MA and we it's always so great to have a glimpse into what the future could look like for us! Thank you for this lovely piece (I loved it so much I had to share it on Facebook!) it's just what the world needed in the wake of the aformentioned Dad video this week! Have a wonderful weekend!Shelhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17010097249579515249noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8537804131900093649.post-2874734056860368542012-02-17T15:45:43.623-05:002012-02-17T15:45:43.623-05:00Thank you for reading and for your comment, AlixJ....Thank you for reading and for your comment, AlixJ. My intent was not to have a better-than tone, nor to be prescriptive. What I was hoping to do (and it's true, I may not have done it well-enough, for certain), is show how, especially in contrast to such combative, abusive tactics as a certain gun-shooting dad did recently, that children and parents can live together without a constant battle about property or chores or expectations. I truly was sharing a snapshot of our week.Amy Bradstreethttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12912770586738069413noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8537804131900093649.post-84348896810994440502012-02-17T15:39:30.404-05:002012-02-17T15:39:30.404-05:00Thanks so much, Kelly. I know this is a lifestyle ...Thanks so much, Kelly. I know this is a lifestyle that is very difficult to convey, but I know that you understand.Amy Bradstreethttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12912770586738069413noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8537804131900093649.post-59253929608426255412012-02-17T15:38:31.235-05:002012-02-17T15:38:31.235-05:00Thank you, Sheri. I truly think all people, yes, i...Thank you, Sheri. I truly think all people, yes, including kids and teens are naturally drawn to caring for their homes, if they are given the freedom and know-how to do so, free of coercion.Amy Bradstreethttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12912770586738069413noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8537804131900093649.post-17674508725406772672012-02-17T15:35:50.968-05:002012-02-17T15:35:50.968-05:00Thank you, Cate! I really appreciate that!Thank you, Cate! I really appreciate that!Amy Bradstreethttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12912770586738069413noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8537804131900093649.post-33174983983404698592012-02-17T15:12:42.114-05:002012-02-17T15:12:42.114-05:00Thanks for this great piece! I'm so grateful f...Thanks for this great piece! I'm so grateful for the internetz where parents can connect on living a non-mainstream (that is, coercive, authoritative, etc) lifestyle! :-)kellyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08183686721305419157noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8537804131900093649.post-61606327997055687782012-02-17T14:17:15.270-05:002012-02-17T14:17:15.270-05:00While I appreciate your post, I don't understa...While I appreciate your post, I don't understand why it had to written with such a "look at how much better we are" tone. Good for your child taking initiative to help with the household duties that keep her home running smoothly and happily. This is not something that should be unique as all children should be taught the value of working together as a family to make the family life smoother and happier, contributing to the "team" that is a family.AlixJhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04712488062940609349noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8537804131900093649.post-23291735235930978352012-02-17T10:23:59.169-05:002012-02-17T10:23:59.169-05:00I just love this!!! Many kudos to Olivia for taki...I just love this!!! Many kudos to Olivia for taking the intiative and to her parents for raising such an industrious young lady!Sherihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06543916613150464407noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8537804131900093649.post-88624274344835464842012-02-17T10:19:34.783-05:002012-02-17T10:19:34.783-05:00Amy, thank you for this beautiful picture of how i...Amy, thank you for this beautiful picture of how it can look. A gift into my day.<br /><br />Best,<br /><br />FlorenceCate's Follyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07489170974303163269noreply@blogger.com