Showing posts with label mothering. Show all posts
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Friday, March 13, 2015

Eighteen Today, You've Got This, Kid

Look at her eyes for god's sake. Somebody ole would have eyes like that, so I call her ole Livia. ~Alice Walker, The Color Purple.

Olivia's birth flower. #18
We're celebrating @oliviaelemental turning 18, today. This is huge. And so wonderful.
18 candles

Happy 18th to @oliviaelemental!

Olivia didn't specify what kind of cake she wanted, so I made my white cake filled with lemon curd and raspberry sauce, iced in white chocolate and butter (basically). #fromourkitchen

Our little wide-eyed, inquisitive child is now eighteen years old. This detail brings with it an assortment of dichotomies-how did this happen so quickly, in a flash she's grown, and how is every moment of being with her, recorded in every cell and molecule of our being? Our stomaches grow queazy at the many changes afoot, and all a flutter, excited for her, relishing in her success. In wistful moments, memories of her childhood come flooding, and yet she is a tide, forcing waves before her and we could not and would not hold her back.

We celebrated in our usual way around the table with favorite meal, cake (my white cake filled with raspberry and lemon curd, topped with a white chocolate butter frosting and fresh raspberries), and gifts. Ever the music lover, her special gifts included a birthday evening spent seeing Lady Lamb and the Beekeeper in concert, and tickets to see her much adored Sufjan Stevens next month.

It already looks like eighteen is going to be as, uh, energetic, as seventeen was for Olivia, and so I'm refining my napping techniques because whoa. (And you thought your sleepless parenting days were over once they hit toddlerhood? HOW'S IT FEEL TO BE WRONG?) Only this year will involve things like car juggling and passports. We're seriously so proud of her. Keep knocking us on our ass, kid. You've got this.

Thursday, March 5, 2015

Teenagers...What A Bunch Of Competent Individuals

We're screaming up on the heels of birthday season as it is, but then my wee babes have to go and look all adult-like, suddenly. What the hell? DON'T THEY LOVE ME?

He's a fine lad.

Look at this guy, would ya? Wasn't he in some blockbuster summer movie? No? Well he should be! I took this photo while he was on his 87th run to tend to the ducks and chickens that afternoon, because he does things like that, I guess.

This kiddo has had her driver's permit since she was 15, but it wasn't until today that she tried for her license because life threw in some major monkey wrenches for us in between and the timing was always off. Happily, she passed, has her license and sh

Though Olivia has had her driver's permit since she was 15, the last 18 months have thrown us some curve balls here, so Olivia simply renewed her permit and never scheduled her driving exam because life can be tedious that way sometimes. But she sent her card in a week or so ago and got her date and off she went on Monday to take her exam and pass her test all in one go like an almost adult or something (I had to take mine twice, wanna fight?)

And then she goes out all yesterday afternoon on her first solo trip to run errands and attend the Youth Activism Gathering meeting-because she's on the planning team-like she's just trying to prove how responsible and competent she is. (She also designed the YAG poster. Because. Skills.)

Someone's being meticulous and cataloging our older seeds and testing germination. She's far more patient than I am. #unschooling #teen #alwaysunschooled

This was after she spent the morning sorting our older seeds testing them for germination. GAWD. Teenagers. With their patience. And abilities.

Whatever.

It's not like I'm proud of them or anything.

Thursday, February 5, 2015

February Days

Sun's up!
More snow coming this week, too.
These two sweetpeas are trying to clear an area around the bird feeders so that they can continue to feed the wildlife. For perspective, both of them are tall. The chickadees are zooming around their heads, too, and it's easy to think they must be excited
Desperate times call for a desperate tri-county search for a big-ass snowblower until it ends in finding one of the three left in the area. #buylocal

Come to our house, leave with eggs.

Loving this sunshine.
It's about time it snowed around here. #207gram
We easily have an additional eight inches of snow, and it's still snowing.
415pm looks like this now.

So much snow. So. Much. We had more this morning. More is coming. It's just going to be one of those Februarys, I guess. And I show you snow and the short-lived sunshine and eggs (so. many. eggs.) and what you don't see here are the conversations that begin at breakfast, that are sustained throughout the day, threads of which are picked up and wrapped with a variety of topics. You don't see the laughing or the yelling, because there's that, too, or the frustration or the fourth or fifth drafts of important letters written, the worry for friends, the tears that spring when we realize we're down to one guinea pig who has been receiving lots of extra devotion, or the cats who follow us, hoping we'll sit and cuddle with them for a spell. You won't see how wishes become concrete plans in a single photo, or even in words because my children's lives are their own. Our days are still as rich, full, intense, and hands-on as parents to two older teens as they were when our children were small. There's a self-reliance about our teens, though, that is different from when they were toddlers, of course. Our teens make meals, tend to the feeding and caring of animals, embark on projects, immerse themselves in media, books, music, and art. They extend themselves to friends. They make profound discoveries about themselves, realize inner truths. And they initiate plans that will take them years and miles beyond our kitchen table. And it's all astoundingly right and good.

Thursday, November 21, 2013

Our Autumn: Coming Full Circle

We have been living full-time at the farm for nearly three months. In that time, we have had to transition emotionally and physically. We've had to make changes to our autumn calendar, live without some of our belongings, live with an already furnished farmhouse, constant projects and unfinished spaces, and keep an ever watchful eye on the changing weather and seasons. I've had to put this space aside for that time, as well, simply lacking enough hours and energy in a day for all of it. Overall, I am very pleased with the work we've done, again, emotionally and physically, and with the eagerness of everyone to tackle this transition. More, I'm overwhelmed by the somewhat unexpected, possibly surprising sense of contentment we all seem to feel, being here. Sure, I've said, transitions are not without their bumps, too, and everyone can feel out of sorts or place from time to time. But overall? We are happy. Please do visit Bradstreet Farm for farm related updates.

In late September, as always, we attended the Common Ground Country Fair. While we've always enjoyed the fair, tremendously, this year filled us with an even greater sense of belonging and purpose, as with every workshop and talk attended, with each purchase of art or handcrafted item, we were doing it with the farm in mind. This year, we attended the fair as beginning farmers. We spent two afternoons discussing goats and attended two talks on poultry and one on heritage pigs. I fell in love with a donkey, and learned that they are great guard companions for goats, so that sounds like a win win plan. We closed a circle, in some ways, as it was just last year's fair that we attended a farm management talk. What changes a year can bring.

On the way to the fair.

On the way to the Common Ground Fair - Blessed Mabon #maine

Guinea fowl talk.

I kick hippies. #cgcf2013 #commonground

Sandor Katz keynote.

Sandor Katz

The goat talk. This wicked chill goat herder recommends three types of Swiss dairy goats - Oberhasli, Toggenburg, and Sannen. Good to know.

talking goats

Pie Cones.

Pie Cone Reunion #cgcf2013 #commonground

Late Friday afternoon crowds.

the fair

food glorious food

The food.

flatbread

cinnamon popcorn

Olivia's friend Iris came and stayed with us for the fair.

Saturday morning

high fives all around

Certified organic. Iris and Olivia. Maine style. #commonground #cgcf2013

And we visited the Taproot booth some, and had a good chat with Amanda about living with in-laws (and goats), and we met artist Phoebe Wahl. (Dear Santa, Phoebe prints under the tree and on our farmhouse walls would be wonderful.)

The animals.

llama parade

thirsty pig

napping pig

rooster

hello goats

Talking to cranky alpacas at the fair. #commonground #cgcf2013

The harvest.

Bahner Farm

farm market

squash

organic

Adam volunteered at the MOOMilk booth for a second year.

Adam volunteering at MOOMilk

The weather. We were either getting sunburned or soaked, sometimes simultaneously.

too warm Olivia

Alex <3

clouds roll in

Iris and Adam talk with the goats

Saturday morning sunshine

evening

It was another good fair. It was really busy on Friday and Saturday, and rather warm, however, so despite Sunday's rain, we enjoyed the much more quiet pace and smaller crowds on our final day.


In early October, we took a break from all of the house painting, and we piled into the van one morning for a leaf peeping road trip. Within an hour (an hour!), we were in Castine, the town in which I lived from ages 5-8. It's so amazing to be in the midcoast region of Maine, where we do our grocery shopping in Belfast and the towns of Blue Hill (ages 3-5) and Castine, that have forever shaped me, are literally, just down the road. We've taken the kids to see these towns before, but they were pretty young, then. We also went onto Deer Isle and into Stonington, before heading back home. Showing my children all the places that feature so strongly in my memories and stories, that still have such a powerful hold on me, gave them a better sense of how such a thing happens. The landscape, the shore, the scent, the streets, all of it still shines so brightly. Memory lane, indeed.

The Backshore, Castine

Backshore, Castine

the Back Shore road

at the Back Shore

taking down my memory lane

The Castine harbor docks

the docks at Castine harbor

Castine harbor

Down at the Castine docks. #myoldhometown #maine

Adams School, where I attended K-3.

Adams school

the same swings

memory lane

The homes my family rented and the streets on which we lived, in the late 1970s.

Court St.

I lived here for two years

looking towards Water St.

The Manor Inn. (It was full of raccoons and mold and it was slowly sliding down the hill, then, but still glamorous and amazing and special in all its neglected shabbiness.)

The Manor Inn

drive up to the Manor

Manor Inn views

Spindrift, on Dyce's Head.

I used to live here, too

shivers of memory

Our neighbors, on Dyce's Head.

Dyce's Head

Dyce's Head

autumn at Dyce's Head

down the cliffs

stairway down

In town, Castine.

Santa lives here

Emerson Hall

Castine Common

After lunch in Castine, we drove into Blue Hill. We didn't spend any time downtown, as roads were blocked for some kind of thing involving public works and firetrucks. So we went to the park and then to Blue Hill Falls.

Blue Hill Bay

Blue Hill Falls

Blue Hill Falls

From there, we crossed into Deer Isle and we continued on to Stonington. Here's a thing about me - I've long been bridge phobic, which is called gephyrophobia. And when I was little, say ages 3-5, we used to cross this bridge fairly often. This bridge is quite large and curves upwards, and it has a blind hill as you approach it. Also, this bridge was often closed due to strong winds and icing and swaying. It also had stability issues when it was first constructed. One winter, my mother had to take a ferry to work instead of cross this bridge, due to all that swaying and all that icing. Did I mention galloping, because this bridge has done its share. But it's an irrational phobia, right? Hey, I'm working on it. I took these photos and I didn't even cry. But you can't convince me that this bridge isn't a little intimidating, with its narrow two lanes.

Gephyrophobia and Me Part II - this bridge has terrified me since I was a child. #maine

Deer Isle, on the other hand,  is magical and fairyland-like.

Deer Isle

Deer Isle

Deer Isle

Deer Isle

LL Bean probably should just hire her, already. #maine

Deer Isle

I'm damn lucky. #husband #love

Stonington

By Stonington, we were losing our daylight and anxious to cross back over the bridge before dark, so back we went. I think we'll explore these corners of Maine more frequently now that they are just an hour or so away. The Common Ground Country Fair, too, is a half hour drive away, and Alex only just spent last weekend up at MOFGA taking a chainsaw safety course. Earlier this month, too, we were in Camden to present at our second Maine Unschooling Mini Conference, and we are only an hour from there. Twice a month, we'll be in Rockland, also an hour away, for something Olivia is doing (for another post). Everything that we love about Maine feels so central to us and it feels right. It truly feels like home. We drive around in neighboring towns and it's all so familiar to us. We used to live in Union, not twenty minutes from the farm, and so we know that area and we take our recycling to that transfer station. These are places we remember.

It feels like coming full circle, is what it feels like.

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